This Sexually Active Gay Man Claims He’s Never Had An Orgasm

“I am a sexually active homosexual male, and I have never had an orgasm, although I have ejaculated many times,” a man by the name of “MissingOutOnTheBigO” writes to the sex advice columnist, or “Sexpert,” at The Daily Princtonian, Princeton University’s official student newspaper and one of the oldest college dailies in the nation.

“My boyfriend has an orgasm almost every time we have sex, but I never do,” MissingOutOnTheBigO continues. “He thinks it might be because I am stressed from taking six classes this semester and have trouble winding down. Is there something wrong with me?”

Borrowing a page from the McKinley Health Center, the Sexpert breaks it down for the sexually-frustrated undergrad:

“The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement and arousal, plateau, ejaculation and orgasm and resolution,” the Sexpert writes. “There is a common misconception that orgasm and ejaculation always occur in conjunction during sexual intercourse, but that’s not the case. Many men cannot ejaculate but still orgasm, and some men orgasm several seconds before they begin to ejaculate. Orgasm is a cerebral or brain response to physical pleasure; ejaculation is the body’s physical response.”

The Sexpert goes on to list all the reasons why MissingOutOnTheBigO could be, well, missing out on the big O.

“Conditions like diabetes, heart disease, neurological disorders and hormonal imbalances can all have adverse side effects on your experience of sexual intercourse,” the Sexpert explains. “Alcohol or drug use can also impact your ability to experience sexual pleasure. Work-related stress, anxiety about performance (in and out of the bedroom), depression and feelings of guilt can also negatively impact your sexual experience.”

(Sounds like someone was paying extra close attention in their Human Sexuality course. A+ Sexpert!)

So what can be done about this?

“Try ‘mindful sex,’” the Sexpert suggests. “Don’t focus on the result, but instead on the sensations, feelings and intensity in the moment.”

If that doesn’t work, the Sexpert says, “seek consultation from a medical professional.”

“If your inability to reach orgasm is related to a serious medical condition,” the Sexpert continues, “you probably want to take care of that with professional help as soon as possible.”

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Source:: Queerty

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