You never know who you’ll meet on Grindr. A few months ago, Steven Petrow struck up a conversation with a guy on the popular dating app.
“He had a job, he had an adorable pooch—and he was friends with people I knew in the flesh. So I gave him my cell number and asked him to call me about 10 p.m. that night,” he writes in a new column piece.
“Just after 10 he texted that he was at a restaurant around the corner—and he pulled into my driveway two minutes later,” Petrew writes.
He hadn’t given the man his address or even made concrete plans for them to meet. When he asked how the stranger figured out where he lived, he replied, “That was easy – you gave me your phone number.”
Petrew says he was “freaked out.” After all, who tracks down a person’s address using their cellphone number? Other than a stalker, that is.
After doing some investigating, he learned that once you have a person’s cellphone number, you can actually look up a person’s full name, home address, real age, and more using a $5-a-month premium subscription to WhitePages. From there, you can pretty much Google anything you want about a person.
Eric Silverberg, CEO of Scruff, tells Petrew this is precisely when you should “be thoughtful and cautious” about who you give your phone number to on dating apps.
“If you switch [from the app]to text messaging, there’s no community support to protect you and it’s going to be much harder for you to get help if there’s ever some kind of issue,” he says.
Understandably paranoid, Petrew says he now uses a Google Voice number for arranging hookups, sexts, and sending photos.
“I didn’t want to be tracked down again, so I got a Google Voice number, which rings on my cell phone,” he explains. “I can send and receive texts, listen to voicemails, and block numbers. I now give out that number instead of my real cell.”
The downside is that anyone who looked up the Google Voice number will find nothing and likely assume he’s catfishing them.
“Oh well,” he writes. “Life is far from perfect.”
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